Name: Zoe Holdcroft
Occupation: LGBT Project Worker
Place of birth: Stoke-on-Trent
Star sign: Leo
Age: A very youthful 36
Where did you grow up?
Good old Stoke-on-Trent.
Single or attached?
Very much attached. I got diamonds!
What makes you happy?
Spending time with my girlfriend, my pug, my family and friends - especially my Lauri and Jaime (best friends).
What makes you sad?
My dead cat.
What makes you angry?
When my girlfriend comments on my driving.
If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?
Tanned skin - I’m so ginger my skin is translucent!
What’s been the most embarrassing thing you’ve done in your life?
Too many to mention - I do something embarrassing every week!
Would you consider getting married in the future?
Certainly would. I’ve been engaged for about five years, so another couple of years and I’ll make her my wife.
When did you first know you were gay?
When I saw this girl in the local gay club and was like, “Wow, I love her hair”, but I couldn’t stop looking at her. I really liked how she looked and wanted to get to know her. A couple of months later, she was my girlfriend.
When did you come out?
When I was 17.
What was school like for you as a gay teenager?
I wasn’t out at school.
Who was the first person you told you were gay?
When I told my mum, I took her to the local gay club and introduced her to this girl I liked. She asked if I liked her as more than just a friend. I said yeah, I think I do, and she said, that’s great because I think she really likes you too.
What would you say to a youngster trying to come to terms with their own sexuality?
Be yourself, and remember to surround yourself with great, positive people who’ll accept you for you. Be happy and love yourself.
Have you had any experiences with the opposite sex?
Yeah, and I’m proud that I’ve experienced relationships and sex with the opposite sex. It made me realise what I wanted and didn’t want out of life.
When you were younger, what did you want to be?
A children’s TV presenter.
What was your first job after leaving school?
Selling UPVC windows over the phone.
How did you get into working in sexual health?
I saw an advert in the local gay club looking for sessional workers to work for the LGB sexual health team. Pay per hour was £7.35, and only being on £3.73 per hour, I thought, “Yeah, I wanna earn that…” Sixteen years later, I’m still there!
What are the challenges in your job?
I’d say the biggest one is dispelling the myths surrounding sexual health.
What are the highlights?
Working with Galaxy Youth (our LGBT youth group) and working in schools delivering sex & relationships education sessions.
What changes have you seen in the attitude to testing?
Testing in younger people has become easier to access because the team are out and about in schools, colleges, universities and nightclubs across the city.
Where do you see yourself in five years’ time?
Hopefully still doing the same job, as I love it. If not, retired with a lotto win on a beach somewhere hot!
How long have you been frequenting the Midlands gay scene?
The last 18 years.
What's been your fondest memory of the scene?
The Club in Stoke with my best friends, dancing on the stairs near the dancefloor.
Who’s your favourite cabaret act?
Cabaret isn’t for me.
Who’s your favourite person on the scene?
Paul Yarwood (owner of KIKI Manchester), for all his years of letting me into The Club in Stoke free of charge and giving me my first bar job in a gay club.
What do you most enjoy about the scene?
The fun atmosphere, the crazy outfits and the freedom to be yourself.
What have you noticed about the way the scene’s changed over the years?
Since the internet and dating apps, the scene has definitely changed. Nineteen years ago, if you wanted to meet someone, you had to go to a gay club. Clubs were bursting at the seams with people. Nowadays, people can meet up for sex or chat to friends via their mobile - there’s no need to meet in person.
How would you change the scene?
I don’t think you can change the scene these days, you’ve just got to go with it, but it’s a shame because I had the most amazing time in gay clubs in Stoke-on-Trent in my 20s - making friends, going out seven nights a week, travelling to Brum, Derby, Nottingham and Manchester for nights out.
Where do you like to go on a night out?
These days I don’t tend to go to nightclubs. I go out for meals with my girlfriend or friends.
What do you do to relax?
Spend quality time at home with my girlfriend and dogs!
What do you enjoy on telly?
Seriously I love Made In Chelsea. I wish I was that rich!
What was the last track or album you bought or downloaded?
I downloaded this song I heard on holiday that I can’t get out of my head - it goes something like ‘El pollito pio- pulcino pio’!
Which one website do you spend the most time on?
Facebook and eBay - I love a bargain!
What type of holiday do you prefer?
Sun, sea and sand for me, please (although I’m ginger, so not too hot). Wales is fine!
Who's your favourite film actor?
What’s your favourite book?
Harry Potter And The Prisoner of Azkaban.
Half empty or half full?
Half full every time!
What’s your favourite food?
Steak and broccoli.
And how about your favourite drink?
I’m a fizzy-pop kinda girl - I love a can of Rio.
Madonna or Lady Gaga?
If you could take a selfie with one person, alive or dead, who would it be?
My mum - she’s an amazing woman. She loves and accepts me for everything I am, and she tells me all the time how super-proud of me she is.
Gaylife is a sexual health and lifestyle support service created especially for the lesbian, gay bisexual and transgender (LGBT) community in Stoke-on-Trent, and for those questioning their sexuality or gender identity. Find out more HERE
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